Make no mistake, if you’re a millennial dad and you have a son, the world hates him.
Yeah kind of harsh to say, but it’s true. From society, culture, media, movies, school, politics and social media, it’s all being designed to set your son up for failure.

If you don’t believe me, just look around you. Not too long ago, we had Gillette commercials showing two boys play fighting and them calling it “toxic masculinity.” You got schools trying to teach kids about sex at an early age and expose them to stuff that they really shouldn’t be exposed to. They’re kids, let them be kids.

But for boys especially, they’re coming after them hard by trying to make our sons more effeminate. Feminism is being shoved down all of our son’s throats so much to the point that they have no backbone as they get older. A lot of our boys right now don’t have the luxury of even having a father in the home.

Either the father has bounced or the mother has filed for divorce and they are no longer together. In a divorce case, you know who gets most of the power right, the woman. The entire legal system is designed to let the woman win.

I’ve witnessed men be accused of rape just so that the woman could win custody of the children. And then after she has custody, drop all the charges. Lied just to get her way and make the dad look like the bad guy.

And this is right now, during our current times. Millennial dads are facing these types of situations right now. The world hates us and if it hates us this much right now, how much more do you think it’s gonna hate your son as he gets older.

Yet even with all these obstacles we face as fathers and sons, you can still come out on top. More importantly you can still prepare your son to be well equipped for the world he will have to face when he becomes a man.

In this week’s post we are going over 5 ways to raise a son in a world that hates him. If you’ve been awake to everything going on in our world as of late. From society to the current culture, you know that everything has been designed to get rid of the traditional masculine man.

Families are being torn apart left and right due to this very thing and right now there’s an agenda to come after not only your children in general, but especially our boys. Why? Well it’s because our boys are the future men. And if the majority of our current men are being weakened, then our future men will be even weaker.

I don’t want that to happen and I’m almost 100 percent sure you don’t want this to happen either. So let’s get into how to combat this.

If you have a son and you wanna raise him well, the first thing you are gonna wanna do is…

1. Be The Dominant Influence

In his life. This is something that I think fathers overlook. They either don’t spend anytime with their son because they’re working so much. Or they allow for the son to be in the company of other people being influenced by them.

When your son spends more quality time away from you in the presence of others, your influence over him starts to diminish. To be an influence, you gotta be a leader in his life. He has to have a unique level of respect for you as his father and that respect is earned by what you do, not what you say.

If you tell your son that you are going to do something, for the sake of all that is holy, follow through on that shit. Even if it’s the smallest insignificant thing to you, it can be extremely significant to him and have a lasting effect on the way he views you. I’m not saying you’re not gonna make mistakes, you’re not super human. And when those mistakes are made, own it and demonstrate to your son that you’re owning your mistake and not repeating it.

Now you do not have the energy to or the time to spend every second of the day with him, even if you work from home. You still have to work, but if you can involve him in your work in some capacity and show him what you do, he’ll respond to that and be influenced by it. If you have vices, more than likely you are controlled by those vices to some degree.

You need to check that shit because that will also have an influence on him and it may not be the influence you want. The fathers that tell their sons not to drink or smoke, tend to be the ones that do it heavily and don’t want their sons to follow suit. 9 times out of 10 the son still emulates the father’s vices.

Be the most dominant influence in your son’s life, but be the right kind of influence. That’s gonna give him the best shot at navigating the world as a man and paying that forward with his own son.

2. Mentor Him In Masculinity

Very simple, take him under your wing and teach him how to be a man. Don’t rely on public school where they’ll put him in a room with a female teacher with pink hair, tattoos and a nose piercing to become your son’s mentor. That person is incapable of mentoring your son and has nothing of value to offer him.

But you, your experience and life alone already is filled with so many lessons you can teach him. Show him how to throw a punch, a kick, how to wrestle, how to shoot a freakin gun when he gets old enough. Whatever form of education you can provide him, teach him.

He will remember that and he will remember those moments of mentorship you had with him. It’s a shame when you entrust others to do that for your son. You’re passing the responsibility to someone who you have not thoroughly vetted. Someone who is not looking out for your son’s best interest, but rather their own. Your son was endowed to you and he is your responsibility, not someone else’s.

Mentoring him gives you the ability to instill the same core values and beliefs that you have into your son. “Oh no G, do you mean indoctrinate him?” Yeah, that’s exactly what I mean. You have every right to indoctrinate your child with your core values and beliefs because that is your son. Newsflash, every one wants to indoctrinate your kids with their values and beliefs, especially those that have forfeited their ability to have kids through their chosen lifestyle.

They don’t get to tell your kids what they should value and believe, unless you allow it. I don’t give a fuck who it is, whether it’s family, friends, strangers, or the government, you are the father and that is your son. You wanna know what the benefit of having the same core values and beliefs in a household brings. It brings forth unity and peace because whenever there’s a disagreement, you all have a common authority in the home that acts as the law you all abide by.

There’s a reason why societies have law and order, because it allows for general peace. If tomorrow half of the country wakes up believing that red means go and green means stop, there’s gonna be a whole lot of accidents tomorrow. I’ve heard some dads say to me, I’m not gonna raise my kids in my particular religion because I want them to choose whatever they want. I don’t wanna force them. I think that’s one of the stupidest approaches because you’re setting your kid up for failure.

You’re depriving them of even having a fundamental belief system that you yourself carry. If your kid decides to be a Buddhist and you’re a Christian, you’re not gonna have the same common authority. When issues come up, you and your son will crash and it will be extremely hard to be a dominant influence in his life at that point.

Mentor your son, don’t let others do it for you.

3. Discipline Him

The Bible says, “spare the rod, spoil the child.” Now most people take that literally and take it as a license to whoop their kids butt every chance they get. Lord knows my parents demonstrated that throughout most of my childhood. As time has gone on though, I’ve learned that the meaning behind disciplining your child far exceeds punishment.

I’ve also come to find that physical punishment like they did back in the days didn’t hurt as much as emotional or even psychological forms of punishment. I was horrible as a kid, like the devil incarnate and no matter how many times my parents whooped me, it didn’t really change my behavior. I knew that getting whooped was a quick thing for me, I just had to go through a little bit of pain for a short moment in time. And then I was back on the prowl.

When my parents got to the point where they just wouldn’t resort to that anymore, my punishments were more geared towards taking away my liberties. Like my video games or my freedom to go out. Those things tend to hurt more than the physical punishment.

So when it comes to punishing your son when he misbehaves, I encourage you to not resort to the physical kind especially if you’re angry. It’s just not a good combo. As far as disciplining your son goes though, this concept goes beyond punishment.

When I talk about disciplining him, I’m talking about instilling healthy habits into your son. Like working out and being active. Maybe having your son get into martial arts or sports at a young age. Playing an instrument, drawing, writing, reading, whatever the interest is, expose him to these disciplines. And once he finds a few things that he enjoys, keep it consistent.

You do this at a young age and it will provide him with a great foundation of discipline to aid him as a man later in life.

4. Train Him On Money

If you’re the type of man that is striving for personal growth and advancement in life, then you will continue to make more money as you get older. Teach your son how to make money. Demonstrate to him how to acquire the right skills to make money as he gets older. If you’re like me, you more than likely came from a poor family that lived paycheck to paycheck.

And when you saw yourself living that same life, you had an epiphany and you decided to break the cycle and not repeat the same things your parents did. Along that path you may have learned some valuable lessons about money. It is important that you pass these lessons on to your son to at the very least give him a leg up in life. He won’t have to start from scratch like you did.

I hated having to learn about finances, budgeting, saving, investing, and credit all through experience. I mean I’m grateful for it because it made me grow up quicker, but if I could run that back I would have rather known ahead of time. It would’ve saved me a lot of headaches, energy, time and money yet now I have an opportunity to give my son a heads up.

And if you’re at a point in your life right now where you’re trying to raise a son, but money is tight. I want to encourage you to train yourself on money. Read books on the subject and acquire skills that will produce more money for you. As you learn these things and build your wealth, involve your son in the wins, show him your journey so that he can witness his father’s rise to wealth.

This is how you manage that work/life balance everyone loves to talk about. Involve your son in your work in some capacity and you crack the code to the work/life balance dilemma. No longer do you have to choose between one or the other, but you’re merging the 2 for a purpose. I guarantee you that this will make an impact on your son.

The other thing I’ll mention is that as you attain more wealth, be cautious about just giving your son everything he wants. If you come from a poor background, there will be this urge you’ll have to fight against. Because you’re gonna think to yourself, “Hey I never had these things growing up, so I wanna give my son everything I didn’t have.” That’s a bad place to be in because slowly but surely you will turn your son into an ingrate, where they will expect to just get what they want.

Life unfortunately doesn’t work like that. And you wanna start teaching this lessons to your son early so that he doesn’t become an entitled brat. Make him earn things by giving him jobs. Craft a deal with him and make it like a business contract that he signs. Give him that real world experience that forces him to keep his end of the bargain. Even if it’s just chores around the house, make him earn money for the things he wants. Show him the value of hard work and the responsibility of having a job.

If he has that type of experience before he becomes an adult, it will serve him for the rest of his life.

5. Train Him On Women

This one is definitely important, but I put this part last on purpose because I’m a big believer in the fact that you should have your shit somewhat together before you bring a woman into the mix. If you’ve had a good father in your life who influenced you to do what’s right through his example. If he taught you how to be a man and instilled good core values and beliefs in you. If he taught you discipline and helped you learn multiple disciplines. And if he taught you how to make money and how to make money work for you instead of you slaving away working for it. Then you’re ready to attract the right woman.

If you can get your son to think with the right head early on, then he’ll be ready for the right woman. This is honestly something that as a father scares me. You see feminism and all these other ideologies like communism, socialism, leftism, all the -isms have corrupted our society. You don’t have to agree with me, but you can’t deny that there’s truth to this. Right now, there’s people out here advocating that men and women are completely equal and interchangeable. And that is just not true.

Men and women are biologically different and they were designed to compliment one another. If both the man and the woman are equal, then one of us is not needed. And in a large percentage of US households, that person is the father. The father gets removed from the equation because of course the woman can do everything the man can and better, except when somebody breaks into the house or there’s a big ass cockroach to deal with.

There is a blatant attack on men. The entire feminist movement right now is not about equality, it’s about making women superior than men. If a woman wants to have an abortion you get no say in the matter, and if she decides to have that baby and takes your ass to court, you also don’t get no say in that matter. The entire system is rigged for you to lose as a man. A lot of men find that out the hard way and it’s hard to watch them go through it. And most men that go through it, never marry or have children again because they’ve seen the evil side of a woman and have witnessed the betrayal and the lengths a woman will go to get what she wants.

If you want your son to find a good woman that won’t do this to him, then he’s going to have to understand how to select the right one. Here’s a list that will aid him.

1. The potential woman needs to be completely aligned with his core values and beliefs. This means religious views, politics, and worldview. There’s a reason why you do not want to be unequally yoked. It’s because in the long run, it does not work out. At some point there will be a definitive worldview disagreement that will make your home a living hell, especially if kids are involved. Don’t let your son go through that.
 

2. Make sure that the potential woman respects you as a man. This is why I say your son should get his money in order first because that will already make him self sufficient and a provider. A woman will lose respect for a broke man that cannot provide. And since by nature they are hypergamous, which means they marry up, she may not even pay attention to you if you don’t have your money in order. You always want to make more than your woman or else slowly but surely she will lose the respect she has for you. On top of that you wanna make sure that the respect extends to the way she speaks to you as well. If she cusses you out or attempts to emasculate you in front of other people, drop her. You don’t need her in your life.
 

3. Make sure that she is physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intelligently attractive to you. All four, not just one or the other. If you settle for just the physical, that will fade over time and your eyes may start wandering elsewhere. That will cause issues because you may act on those wandering eyes if given the chance. Don’t put yourself in that spot.
 

4. Stay away from single moms and women that put their career over their families. “Oh no, how could you say that G?” Because Single moms come with kids that are not yours which in turn forces you to become the stand in father. If the dad is not in the picture, you will be forced to discipline that child and that may be a point of contention for her because at the end of the day, the child is not yours. And if the biological dad is in the picture, you will have to compete and you will lose every time. Now am I saying this is the case for every situation, No. There are some single mom relationships that work out especially if the child is very young and the biological dad is trash. But remember we’re speaking in the context of advising our son. And this is what I will advise my son. Now, With women that place their careers over their families, they tend to exhibit more masculine traits that over time will cause issues for you. She will have trouble letting you take lead especially if she is used to leading at work in a manager or VP type position. If she views you as an incompetent leader and thinks she can do it better, she will not follow you. Not worth the fight.
 

5. Lastly, do not get with a woman that has a horrible relationship with her father. A father is the first man in a woman’s life and if that relationship is not grounded in love and respect, they will harbor daddy issues and carry those into the relationship. Look for a woman who has an amazing relationship with her father. And if he has already passed away, be weary about how she speaks about him. If she talks about how great of a man he was and how she misses him, that’s a great sign. If she bashes him even in death, it’s time to bounce son.

So That’s it guys, that’s all I have for you in this week’s post. As always I wanna thank you for tuning in and if you got value from this please share it with someone that needs it.

Until next time my fellow Alpha Dad,
- G. Vidal